Testimonials

“ I first went to S.T.O.P just over two months ago. I was really abusive to my wife and started to get physical as well. I was given a leaflet about S.T.O.P through Relate. The first time I went, I felt very nervous but also excited. I was made to feel very welcome by staff and group members. The first time I went I sat and listened to the other men. It was a bit of relief that they also been through very similar things to me. I WAS NOT THE ONLY ONE!!! ”

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“ Since going to S.T.O.P I have not looked back. It has taught me how to be more respectful towards my wife and other people, how to listen first and not jump in with two feet. That if I am wrong, is it really the end of the world. I am no longer abusive to my wife. I feel a lot better in myself more positive about things that I do. I have learnt a lot from S.T.O.P, if it wasn’t for S.T.O.P I would not be where I am today. Thank you very much. ”

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“ I started coming as a voluntary act due to abusing my wife. By doing so I came to recognise that in fact I have been a serial abuser over 3 decades. The group educates, informs and makes the skills available to build new life by recognising the past one and accepting it’s your personal choice to abuse or not. The ability to be a part of a changing group of men with wide ranges of problems gives one a greater sense of understanding of your own issues and is a privilege. Thanks to Kathy and Pete. ”

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“ I didn’t know how angry I was until I started coming to S.T.O.P. Coming to S.T.O.P has saved my marriage and helped me to become a better person, as well as supporting husband and caring dad. I wish I had come 20 years earlier. I will pass on all I have learnt to everyone I know, that is why I must thank you all. ”

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“ S.T.O.P is helping me come to terms with being able to manage anger from time to time. I recommend the group to anyone with anger issues. I am grateful to S.T.O.P. ”

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“ S.T.O.P has shown me that hope can be found for abusive men and how hard it can be to come to terms with the changes I must make to be a decent gentle man. S.T.O.P is an invaluable resource. Thank you ”

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“ There are so few options available to those who wish to seek to address their problems with anger that it would be the loss of a valuable resource were this group
discontinued. ”

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“ Without S.T.O.P I would be without my family, my home and probably my job. I cannot thank you enough. Cheers ”

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“ S.T.O.P has helped me a great deal with some of the problems but still experience some problems. I enjoy coming to these sessions and will keep coming to them. ”

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“ It’s helped me get over my suicide attempt and come to terms about my abusive problem and how to deal with others. ”

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“ Just to say thanks. I know I would not have been able to get through this if it wasn’t for S.T.O.P. Thanks for your endless time. ”

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“ This group has helped me quite a lot being able to talk about problems and knowing there is help there if I need it, makes me feel a lot better about life. ”

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“ I have found coming here a big help. Before attending and reading the book I didn’t really have a way of dealing with my moods and outbursts. I used to just “be on my best behaviour” and didn’t know that there was something else I could do. Like time outs, and knowing is was ok to walk away from heated situations without being construed as backing down helps a lot. The book is a massive help. The sections on beliefs, faulty thinking and attitudes and assertiveness one big help ”

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“ Life changing/altering even after one session and the book also makes you readdress how you approach life and makes you look hard at yourself reality. Shows you full on everybody need’s to read this book. It is wrong what I have done I knew this prior to attending but really see it
clearer. ”

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“ S.T.O.P is very useful that I would most definitely recommend to people with anger problems or a problem with recognising the signs of anger building. The techniques are help, once you recognise the signs of anger building, using those practical and learnt techniques stops you getting to that nasty place. Controlling the anger has definitely made me a better person for others to live with. Keep up the good work. ”

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“ I have been attending S.T.O.P for over a year and now the time has come to say thank you to all involved for all the help and support. I came to the group a very angry and nasty person and now I am so calm and a totally different person. I couldn’t have done it on my own and would recommend the group to anyone who needs it. Once again thank you, thank you, thank you. ”

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“ I’d lost everything when I decided to contact S.T.O.P being on the position I was I didn’t know where to turn. Now I can safely say I’ve changed the way I was, the way I controlled my life and the way I was towards my partner. I know I’ve still a heck of a long way too go yet contacting S.T.O.P was the best telephone call I’ve ever made. Many thanks Kathy and Drew. ”

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“ I have been coming to the group for 18 weeks and if it weren’t for the group I would have done something and regretted it after. I have learnt to control my temper and understand how to control my feelings and understand this a lot more clearly. I want to thank everyone for helping me to control my whole life. I don’t know what I would of done without this group so a very big thank you to you all ”

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“ A big thank you to Kathy and Peter for what you have done to help me through the past year. I have learnt so much from you all. My partner and I talk more to each other and we now have a baby we hope to have good times together. Also please pass my thanks onto the group. If I need to come back and see you all I know the door will be open. ”

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